To Flame or Not to Flame that Cheating Bastard?

If you're a good person, and most of us are or try to be good, you may discover that integrity, kindness, creativity and loyalty get rewarded with betrayal, humiliation, defamation, bullying , sadistic abuse and ruin. You will ask yourself what you did to deserve your lover's scorn, especially if hes the one who is cheating, calling you a psycho behind your back and sicking his flying monkeys up your ass. It seem like some people are willing to go to great lengths to keep up appearances and when you look past the mask , realizing what he says and does are two very different things , you have worn out your welcome. He will love boom you, devalue you and discard you. If you felt a lover set you up just to break your heart and leave in a fix outside the bus stop , you're not crazy . I am no spring chicken .It has taken me awhile to see this truth: people will spend every ounce of energy grinding an ax.
You don't know why but if he is pulling flaming emails you wrote a decade ago out of his ass to justify how he dumped you with a status update on Facebook , you have yourself a pathetic little man with passive aggressive abuse oozing all over his Borderline Personality with an overlapping blend of malignant narcissism. He walks around with a sadistic smirk on his face while you stumble through horror at how he has publicly shamed you then you got Coozed.
Not to worry. You need not lower yourself to his lowly malice, though the pull to it is understandably strong . If you did  that, he wins and on some level he is probably self destructive and so are you or you wouldn't have stayed around for the completed cycle . Maybe it seems worse because you moved in together, got married . Well it is worse, but when it was dating you had a all your own things going on. A house, a great job, friend. You could get pissed and say fuck off when his  fear of intimacy nonviable pulled the rug from under you just when things were starting to go well.
Does he know what he is doing? Does it matter!?